Relationship Resources

Imago couples therapy is different because…?

In the movies you often see marriage counseling provided by an “expert” who hears each partner, decides what each should do, and offers their advice.

The trouble is that most of us have developed very good defenses against accepting advice, especially if it looks like maybe we are in the wrong and are being told to do things right. That’s why those movie scenes are often comical, and when we watch, part of the humor is recognizing that it won’t work.

Imago couples therapy takes a radically different approach. We don’t work to “fix” you, we invite you to join with us in working on the relationship as a whole. In Imago, nobody is right or wrong. The challenge is to learn how to talk together about things which really matter, in a way that feels safe, supportive, and positive.

That puts you in the driving seat! You and your partner learn to work on the relationship yourselves, and you become the experts on your own relationship by learning to find out what is really going on for your partner, and understanding how things in the present have a deep emotional connection to their past.